Transform... it's my word for 2013...
It's not just about transforming the physical... it's about the mental side of life too.
I let things get to me, way too much and way too often. And they got to me to a point where my body became physically sick. Waking up felt like just too much. The aches, the pains... and they were not just physical pains but they were mental pains too. I went to the doctor. My blood pressure was through the roof... and my diabetes was out of control. I had no energy and my heart was racing all the time.
I learned over the last couple of years that if you want to protect your body, you have to first protect your mind and your soul. You have to get rid of the thoughts that over time will make you sick, or worse... they will kill you.
I lost my best friend to cancer a little over a year ago and, although on the surface she was the most positive person I ever met, underneath- she worried... about everything, and she took everything that everyone said to heart. If they were upset, she was upset. She tried to fix everything for everyone. She wanted everyone to be happy. She was the most selfless person I EVER met. And she's gone.
The thing that she didn't understand, (and it's something I am only just beginning to understand) is that some people are happy being unhappy. It's their comfort zone. To feel defeated is easier than doing the work. To blame others is easier than blaming themselves. It's safer to agree with the pack than stand up for what's right and find yourself alone.
Some people will always have a problem with you, no matter what you try to do to fix it. But rest assured- it's not you, it's them. It's really, really, REALLY them. And they are so unhappy- no matter how happy they look on the outside.
So what do you do to deal with it?
You simply let it go.
You let them go.
You can be pleasant and kind but you have to mentally walk away. You can't fix it, you can't change it, you can't help them... you have to let it all go.
And you know what will happen to you if you let it all go? You will find peace like you have never experienced before. You will make room for the postive people who have been waiting for your attention.
In my case, I felt born again. I wanted to eat better, I wanted to exercise, I wanted to work on my business and I wanted to enjoy my children... and I could do it all, guilt free!
When you let go of what holds you back, you will spring further than you ever thought you could!
As of today I am down 10lbs. My blood pressure is perfect and my diabetes in under great control. I haven't had a headache in weeks! My business is growing, my marriage great and my children are learning and growing every day.
Is it perfect? No. But I read that a true champion has long term memory of her successes and short term memory of her failures so I refuse to dwell on the failures. You will only see me dwelling on the positives. It's where I prefer to live.
It's not easy. There's a LOT of self-talk. You have to replace what you've heard in your head with what you should be hearing... and it takes time. Lots of time. But time well spent.
And now that I've started to let go of the negative, it's no longer poison... it's FUEL. Try me... Go ahead... Tell me I can't do something... Watch me...
this journey... it's my year to transform. It's only February... come with me...
Coming up later- my version of Weight Watcher Soup.